Who did you learn to be silent for?

When people contact me to ask about voice coaching, they often come from a place of disliking their own voice. They want it to sound different. Stronger. Clearer. More confident.

But most of the time, that’s not the actual issue.

I can’t help you completely change the sound of your voice. And honestly, I don’t think you need to. Yes, technical elements like tempo, articulation and dynamics can improve clarity and presence. They matter. But in my experience, they’re rarely the true solution.

With 99% of my clients, the real challenge lives beneath the surface, in the subconscious mind and the stories that you are telling yourself.

What we’re dealing with are patterns that shaped slowly, over a lifetime. There are many ways this begins;

• A teacher ridiculing you after giving a wrong answer.

• Parents telling you to keep quiet.

• Learning to avoid conflict, because disagreement is unsafe.

• Constantly doubting your own expertise, even when you know your field.

These moments may seem small on their own. But together, they teach your nervous system something very specific: silence brings you safety.

And so the voice adapts.

It becomes careful. Measured. Quiet. It learns how to not take up too much space.

Years later, people come to me convinced that their voice is the problem. But what I hear is a voice that has been trying to protect them for a very long time.

The question then isn’t How do I make my voice sound better? It’s Who did I learn to be silent for? And maybe even more important: are they still the ones you need to protect yourself from...?

Voice coaching, the way I practice it, focuses on creating internal safety for the voice to make itself heard. Because when your inner systems changes, the voice follows.

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